Society expects from women to settle down at a certain age, become mothers, strive for a career, juggle a busy schedule, and find a way to balance out everything. When everything seems foreplaned, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that many people feel like they are falling behind – especially when it comes to getting married. If you put all of this on the side and decide to be unapologetic, it takes some soul searching and real honesty to answer two questions: how do I feel and am I truly ready for marriage? Here are the signs you are.
You understand that love is a choice
Fueled up romantic books and movies – we’ve all been fantasizing about perfect love at some point in our lives. Adopting a more mature notion of love is a sign of growing up and understanding that more often – love is a choice you have to make every day. Loving a person means going through tough times and being there for her no matter what. It’s about compromising, learning how to be more emphatic, being caring and putting your significant other first. This doesn’t mean getting married is all about embracing brutal reality and settling or reconciling with the fact the spark will eventually disappear (although it does not have to happen). Rather it’s about making a conscious decision to put an effort every day and accept the fact that love evolves so you can enjoy every phase of it. You’re ready if you’re aware that, along with the romantic part, there is that other side of the coin that is rarely shown in fairytales.
You trust the person you’re with
In the dating world, we all struggle with insecurities and we go back and forth, unwillingly taking part in love games and trying to build a relationship with someone. This can be exhausting and bad experiences can create trust issues or problems with self-confidence. It takes time to accept yourself but when you do – it’s a lot easier to accept someone’s love. The moment you find the courage to let go is the moment your heart opens up to love. Then you stop asking questions like – does he love me for who I really am or is he using me? Or – is he really staying late at work or is he a cheater? This is an unhealthy position to take and it could potentially ruin your future marriage. You know you’re ready if you’ve managed to free yourself from doubts, jealousy, and poignancy.
Your friends and family see the two of you as a perfect match
Especially when we’re in love – we seem to have a crooked perspective about things. Sometimes it’s important to step out of your own head and look around you. Friends and family are great indicators of whether or not your other half is right for you. Make a few steps away from your situation in order to see a broader picture. You might not care about what your parents think about your boyfriend while you’re dating but if you’re thinking about building a family with someone – it also implies your future husband embracing yours. You’re ready for marriage if you’re able to listen to what your friends and family are saying and accept their potential criticism as part of them wishing you well. If they see the two of you as a perfect match, it can indicate you indeed are right for each other.
You don’t plan on running away
Every relationship has its ups and downs which can be a true test of how willing you are to fight for your love. It all comes down to whether or not you can imagine your life without your partner. You know you’re ready when you truly accept your significant other as your family member.
In today’s world, women are under a lot of pressure and they seem to be forced to live following a certain pattern. However, you shouldn’t let anyone tell you how to live your life. Take your time and do everything at your own pace.
This guest blog post was written by the Roxana Olivia – Style editor at highstylife.com
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Roxana is a travel enthusiast and lifestyle consultant from Sydney and she loves to write about her adventures. She is all about the healthy lifestyle, loves to run with her husband and dogs and has fun cooking exotic meals for her family. Being a typical Aussie, she often hits the waves and loves beaches and sunshine! You can find out more about her writing following her on twitter and facebook. She is also one of the editors at Higstylife Magazine.