Today’s post will be all about dresses, yes that one dress that you have dreamed of all your life. I will talk about my personal experience while dress shopping, as well as share tips on the Do’s & Don’ts. Every woman has imaged her special day since she was a little girl, not so much for the marriage part, but rather the dress. Your wedding day, is pretty much the only time in your life where you can dress like a total princess, and get away with it. Guests at your wedding (mostly woman) would all be waiting for the moment to see the bride in her beautiful dress, as inspiration for their big day, or simply to reminisce on their own wedding.
I remember when I was a little girl attending weddings was one of my favourite things to do. I got to see beautiful decorations, and flowers, dance all night, wear a pretty dress, and of course eat cake! It was like one big birthday party. As I grew older, and started to pay more attention to detail, I found weddings fascinating and inspirational, a lot of time and thought is put into creating what was once a dream in our heads, to reality. Even though it would only last a few hours, the memory lives forever. I knew from that moment onwards, I wanted to be an event organiser. I want to share my ideas with the world, and make things look beautiful.
As most of you know by now, I recently got engaged. Which means I got to do some serious wedding planning. My favourite part was dress shopping. I asked my maid of honour who is my sister, and my mother to accompany me on this journey. I booked appointments at several bridal boutiques in London. I knew the style of dress that I wanted. However you never really know what would like, unless you try different designs on. God created us differently, all women are beautiful in her own skin whatever her shape or size. Thankfully designers have created different gowns to suit every woman’s needs. While researching for different styles, I found the below image helpful from West Side Magnet
Below are some tips I would like to share with you, on the Do’s and Don’ts of wedding dress shopping:
- Personal style:
Focus on your personal style, and what flatters you the most, nobody but your self knows what it takes to make you feel comfortable in a dress, so don’t get carried away with the latest trends, and designs. It’s always good to look through them, for inspiration, but you will already have an idea of what you are looking for prior to your appointment. I would suggest you try on designs that you had in mind, before venturing out, as you would want a timeless dress that will live in your memory forever. Personally I would describe my self as tall and thin, so I knew that I would be lost in a princess dress, therefore I stuck to mermaid and tight-fitting dresses. I did try on the occasional princess cut gowns (which I feel madly in love with, but I just did not feel comfortable in)
- Pay attention to the top half of your dress:
While trying on dresses, most brides get carried away by the tail of the dress, and forget to pay attention to the top half (waist and above). Remember that is what most your guests will notice while you’re sitting down, and what will be more visible in photographs. There are numerous cuts and designs for the top half of wedding dresses. Make sure you choose the one that suits you best, as most designers can change the skirts to your preference.
- Bring your camera:
“Mirrors are used to sell dresses—cameras don’t lie,” Richard O’Malley. While trying on your gowns you need to see what they would look like on through a lens of a camera, and also once you leave the shop, you need these photos to help remind you of the gowns you liked most. Although some bridal boutiques don’t allow photographs, If you explain to the assistant prior to your appointment that you would like the photos for decision purposes only, they should be flexible with that.
- Don’t limit your self:
As I mentioned above, in point number one. You should try different styles, ones that you have considered, and others that you admired but didn’t think of buying. This way you will truly find the design and style you like best, with no regrets of shopping around. It would be helpful if you found a bridal salon that sold 3 or more designer collections, that way you have a larger variety, and it saves time.
- Don’t over crowd your decision:
Don’t bring too many people to your fittings, as it may confuse you more than you think, your already confused on which gown you prefer, and many factors could be the reason for this, such as (budget, design etc) so its best to keep the number small, and choose the nearest and dearest whom you trust their personal style and opinions.
Most brides forget that half of your appointment is spent in the dressing room waiting to try on different styles. Therefore it’s crucial to have new white/nude, and I emphasis on the colour, undergarments on, with a good fitting bra. Not only will it make you feel better, but also it helps with the decision-making.
- Wedding accessories:
Remember ladies, Accessories sale are final, and non-refundable. Don’t feel the pressure to purchase your veil or accessories with your dress. I would suggest take time to think of what you really want to avoid disappointment.
What to expect and achieve from your bridal appointment:
In most bridal boutiques, you will be assigned an assistant, who will sit down and take notes of your special day, and probably ask a few personal questions about your self to better understand your wedding. Once you select your gowns, ask the assistant what she thought would suit you, as she has experience from other customers. Don’t worry if the dresses are too big, they usually bring them at a standard size, and they are altered to your own. Ask as many questions as you want (Do I feel beautiful, and comfortable? Can I dance in it? Can I sit down? As gorgeous as a gown may be, if you can’t move in it all night and feel trapped, it’s not the right one for you.) Don’t be shy to ask your assistant or friends questions, this will help you decide.
I hope you found this post useful, and I wish you the best of luck deciding on your wedding gown. Stay tuned to my upcoming posts, as they are about different dress designs, and designers.