Ashleigh & Adam friendship led to the most beautiful love story and wedding years on, after meeting on an airplane on the way to Thailand. The lovely couple tied the knot on the 26th of February 2016 with a brave yet unusual approach to marriage, breaking the traditional norm by changing both their last names.
Adam’s name was Adam Shirley, and when we got married we also took on his late grandfather’s last name, Spencer, in order to keep his memory alive, as he was the last remaining Spencer and him and his grandfather had a really close bond. – Ashleigh
Adam proposed to Ashleigh at one of their favourite restaurants (Noosa), Ashleigh was completely oblivious to the fact that he was going to propose because they went on a long walk beforehand, whilst Adam had the ring in his pocket the entire time.
How did you find your perfect dress?
Ashleigh: I wanted it to be quite fitted, but also have a really long train with embellishments without being too traditional. My brief was ‘no lace’ so instead we used a range of appliques and different mesh materials to get a more modern take on a traditional dress style.
Venue & Styling
What sort of style did you envision for your wedding day (in terms of venue & décor + styling)?
Ashleigh: Lots of colour, lots of fun, lots of greenery. No white and green styling in sight. Everything had to be really vibrant and colourful.
Any DIY décor elements?
Ashleigh: A lot of the styling was DIY, we were very hands on! From the beginning, I came up with all the concepts and then my mum and I brought them all to life over the next few months. My mum was amazing, she is really talented and so she handwrote all the place cards and table numbers, she hand-painted 80 sets of oyster shells as makeshift salt-and-pepper shakers and trawled the internet for weeks just to find the right vases for our table settings.
We also got a bit DIY with the menu and asked the venue to create one canape that was my favourite food (fish tacos) and another that was Adam’s (hot chippies). We then made little toothpicks that either said ‘from the bride’ or ‘from the groom’ on them. Also my Aunty, Uncle and cousin were incredible. My uncle runs a family nursery so he arranged the shipment of about 16 Oak Trees into the venue. The ceilings were really high and the room was massive so we knew we needed a bit of height in there. We wrapped them all with fairy lights and the end result was just incredible. Also, because I had created most of the styling myself, I couldn’t be there on the day to set up so my talented cousin managed the entire bump in and bump out including styling a huge 2.4m tall flower wall which formed a backdrop for our DIY photo booth.
What was your favorite moment from the day?
Ashleigh: Our first dance, definitely! We love to have fun and we are always the last ones on the dance floor together so that was a moment that truly represented us. We danced to Uptown Funk by Bruno Mars and the energy was just so electric and upbeat – our guests literally jumped into the dance floor halfway through to join us.
What’s your most important piece of advice for creating and maintaining a strong relationship?
Ashleigh: Keep laughing, don’t let things get too serious. Communication is so important, and listening to the other person and respecting their point of view, even when you don’t agree, is also pretty pivotal.
If you could do it all over again, what would you change?
Ashleigh: I just asked Adam this question and his response was “can I change my wife?”. We really wouldn’t change anything, it was great.
Any tips that you can give to future brides?
Ashleigh: Don’t get too caught up in the styling of it all. People can go way, way overboard with it all but at the end of the day if you can nail all the big-ticket items like the ceremony, the speeches, food and the music, no-one is going to remember what colour the tablecloths were, or whether there was Aesop soap and heaps of candles in the bathrooms or not. It’s really easy to get so caught up in the detail, but on the day, none of it even matters.
I would like to personally thank the lovely couple Adam & Ashleigh for sharing their magical day with us, we are truly inspired, as well as the team at BWedding Invitations.
Dress: Helen Manuell
Makeup: Tre Dallas
Hair: Sarah Caporale
Accessories: Ichu Jewellery
Bridesmaids Dresses: Finders Keepers
Grooms Suit: P Johnson Tailors
Photographer: Darin Collison
Personalised Wedding Gift: Adorn Invitations
Plants: Warner’s Nurseries
Wedding Invitations: BWedding Invitations
Creative concepts and styling: Papermill Media
Styling: Party Plants
Cake: Cherry Tree Bakehouse
Flowers: Botanics of Melbourne
Ceremony Venue: Abbotsford Convent
Reception Venue: Abbotsford Convent Rosina Room