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Save The Date Etiquette

There is a ring on your finger, and you are so eager to start planning your dream wedding. After announcing your engagement to the nearest and dreariest of your friends, it is time to sit down with your future spouse and choose a wedding date. Once you have overcome that task, you’ll need to inform your guests, so they can keep that date free. In other words you’re going to need to send your guests pre-wedding invitations, commonly referred to as Save The Date cards.save the dateWhat are Save The Date Cards?

They are the perfect way to announce your wedding date to your guests, while you are still deciding on the venue.

When it comes to wedding stationery there’s a certain tone brides must be aware of before sending off their invitations. Save the Date cards are just as important as your wedding invitations, therefore etiquette rules apply.

Timing is key:

Getting started; it would be ideal to send out your Save the Date cards as soon as you know your wedding date with a minimum of 6 months to spare (If sent earlier they will forget, and if sent later they wont attend). Especially if you are hosting a destination wedding or if you have guests travelling from abroad, this would give them enough time to plan their journey, take holidays, and organise finances.

Pick & Choose:

You don’t have to send a card to everyone, only to the guests you want to guarantee their attendance, for example close family members can be informed over the phone or in person. You may find your self in a sticky situation if you don’t specify exactly whose invited on the cards, it’s best to be clear from the start by including the actual names of every intended guest on the envelope. Therefore your invited guests have plenty of time to arrange babysitters for their little ones.


It is understandable that you may not have all your wedding details at the time you send out your Save the Date cards. It’s hard to know what content to include on your cards, and what to save for your formal invitations.


◊ Name of the couple

◊ Wedding date

◊ Location (Even if the venue is not booked yet).

◊ A notice to state that a formal invitation will follow (You don’t want your guests confusing these cards for your wedding invitations).

There is no need to mention RSVP instructions at this stage, if you have a wedding website you may want to include that on your card but it is not necessary. We also think it is bad taste to include your wedding registry details on Save the Date cards, even if some guests are wondering where you’re registered, they can ask your bridal party or family members to stay in the loop.

Choosing your wedding Stationary:

Some suppliers offer discounts when you purchase your entire wedding stationary from them, this however doesn’t mean that your cards must match your wedding invitations. Save the Date cards are considered less formal than wedding invitations, therefore its time to let your creativity shine, feel free to experiment with colours, fonts, and patterns. Keep your guests wondering what your wedding invitations will look like.





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