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Wedding Invitation Etiquette – Part 2



Hello readers,

I hope you enjoyed my previous blog post, wedding invitation etiquette part 1 (Click here). Thank you for all the love and positive feedback I received. For those of you who emailed me with questions, I decided that in part two (as promised) I will include some FAQ to help you further with your invitations.

1- When should you send out Wedding Invitations?

Traditionally, invitations go out six to eight weeks before the wedding. That gives guests plenty of time to clear their schedules and make travel arrangements. If it’s a destination wedding, give guests more time and send them out three months ahead of time.

2-What is an ideal date to set for the RSVP ?

Make your RSVP date 2 to 3 weeks before your wedding date. This will allow enough time for you to get a final head count to the caterer (one week before) and to finalize your seating chart. If some guests still haven’t responded by your deadline, give them a quick call and ask for their RSVPs.

3- How can I keep my guests from abroad updated?

consider creating a wedding website, to keep your guests informed on all the details.

4- Is it ok to include our registry on our invitations?

Including registry info on the wedding invitations or save-the-dates is still considered impolite because it can come off as though you’re asking for gifts. Tell your wedding party, parents and close friends where you are registered, and let them fill guests in. Plus, most guests will know that all that extra information (that they didn’t find on the invitation) is on your wedding website.

5-We’re having an adults-only wedding (no kids). How can we make sure this is clear to our guests?

Address your invitations correctly, to each guest by name, not “and guest” — and guests should understand that the invite is meant for only those mentioned. If you find that some reply with their children’s names added, give them a call and explain that you’re having an adults-only wedding and that you hope they can still attend. If there are a lot of kids in your family, you may want to consider hiring or arranging for a babysitter. It’s definitely not required, but it’s a nice gesture.

6- How do we let guests know our dress code?

The easiest way to get your point across is to include a dress code in the lower right-hand corner of the invite or on a reception card; “black-tie,” “cocktail attire” or “casual attire” are all acceptable. Your invitation design will also clue guests in. An ultra-formal, traditional invite with letterpress and calligraphy will give guests a hint to the formal nature of the event, whereas a square invite with a playful font and bright colors would fit a much more casual style.

7- Plus one Dilemma?

If a guest isn’t married or in a serious relationship, it’s perfectly acceptable to invite them solo. Most guests will understand that without “and Guest” or another name on the invitation means they aren’t invited with a plus-one. While it’s always nice to invite everyone with a guest, if you’re having a small wedding, your family and friends should understand your reasoning. What to do if a guest RSVPs for two? Call them up and explain that you’re having an intimate wedding and, unfortunately, you were not able to invite everyone with a guest. But if you realize that nearly everyone will be coupled up, extend a plus-one invitation to your few single friends and family.

8-Where do you put the return address on wedding invitations?

Add the return address on the back flap of the envelope. Also, the return address used should be that of the person(s) whom you’ve designated to receive response cards, be it your parents or you. Don’t forget that the RSVP envelope should also be printed with this address (and should include postage).


I hope the above questions have helped guide you in the right direction when it comes to wedding invitations, and content. In the posts to come I will include some inspirational designs, features, and suppliers. 

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Content inspiration via The Knot.




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