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Confessions of a Wedding Planner

Hello readers 

Planning a wedding is not all champagne and roses, it may seem like fun but you always need a helping hand, it will be a bigger bonus if that helping hand is a wedding coordinator, they design your wedding day, keep your bridal party, and vendors on schedule, prevent disasters, and do it all with a smile. 

Wedding planners are at the heart of the problem, on site, and ready to take on any obstacles that might upset the bride, however deep down there are things she would like to tell you, but can’t (most probably because she would get fired if she did!). In today’s post we are going to dish the dirty little secrets every wedding planner has locked in their closet. 

They don’t want to do your dirty work

Wedding planner are meant to keep everyone in check, but there is only so much they can do, often brides utilise their position to ask their wedding coordinators to un-invite guests, or break the news to certain family members that they are not welcome on the head table. When it comes to pulling off a wedding, planners can move mountains, but that doesn’t mean they can whip attendants into shape or repair relationships. These icky sticky situations shouldn’t be in the list of duties, they can however advise the bride on the best way to approach certain situations, but don’t leave her to do all your dirty work. 

They are not personal assistants! 

Wedding planners have a long list of to-dos, that are all wedding related, to insure your day runs smoothly. She is not your personal assistant, so tasks like get coffee, fetch your dry clean, book doctor appointments, or babysit children during the ceremony are not apart of her job. Your planner can’t make sure things go as they should if she’s changing diapers and chasing behind screaming toddlers. 

Time is money!

Every bride is important, but you are probably not the only client on her list. Time is valuable and it isn’t free, utilise your appointments to address all the important questions you need answered, any other minor details can be discuss over email or with your maid of honour. Wedding planners have trusted vendors, its best to always use ones that have been recommended for you, rather than taking time to visit new ones in every appointment. If you want her to hold your hand every step of the way, you’re going to have to pay for it. 

White lies

“The truth and nothing but the truth” well not in this case, your planner is allowed to tell you white lies on your wedding day. They mostly keep certain information to censor the brides emotions, and avoid a meltdown. In some cases vendors may have misunderstood the planner or your requests, and made slight alterations to your wedding cake, or bouquet, your photographer may be running late, or DJ has not completed the set up. In other words the less you know the better, brides who say their weddings went off without a hitch aren’t lying, but most likely, they had planners who protected them from any problems that arose, think of them as wedding super heroes. 

We want to hear your opinion 

Yes planners are wedding experts, but they rely on the brides ideal image to create her dream wedding. Indecisive brides are a total nightmare to wedding planners, they can offer suggestions but in the end of the day its down to your own personal preference, it is impossible for them to point you in the right direction if you don’t know what you want in the first place. 

Don’t be a Bridezilla 

Not everything your planner suggests you will agree with, no matter how much stress you as a bride are under, you must remember to remain calm when talking to others, you don’t want to risk offending her. Wedding planners and vendors are accustomed to dealing with bridezillas all day, they may have more patience and thicker skin, but getting married doesn’t give you a license to ignore common decency, and stress doesn’t excuse obnoxious behaviour. Be honest, cooperative, realistic, and respectful. After all your planner is your best ally in all this craziness, so treat her like it.

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